Jodo Shu Hawaii Bon Dance will be on August 14 and 15, 2015 from 6:30 P.M. at 1429 Makiki Street, Honolulu.
When we fall in love, we present the best of ourselves. In time, our faults are revealed. Sometimes, these faults cause a separation. However, if we have an open heart, we will always see the good in those we loved, and even remain friends with them. Every so often, when we close our eyes and go back in time, the good times play back, and we can’t help but miss them.
The song “City of Dreams” by Dirty South & Alesso featuring Ruben Haze below represents the feelings I wrote in this post. When you watch it, you can appreciate the hard work that EDM DJs/Producers put into their songs and that’s why my business partners and I enjoy showcasing them at our events.
My partners in the private sector are friends of mine and we’re working on projects that face a lot of hurdles, including factors that we can’t control. Every project that we’re involved with is in the development process so we’re not making any money now, thus, having a supportive relationship with one another is nice to have. When I was a politician, much of my staff were friends of mine as well, and likewise, we supported one another through the ups and downs. Lastly, I’m lucky to have close family and friends to talk to or be with, who play a huge role in helping me to keep my spirits up as I take on new challenges.
Below is a commercial for the NASDAQ expressing the importance of having good partners.
As I mentioned in my “Positive Living Practice and Stages Practice” post, I’m creating a Positive Living Practice series that highlights products and services that can help us with our health, wealth, and happiness so that we can live a happy and fulfilling life. By “health,” I mean good physical, mental, and spiritual health. For “wealth,” I define it as time, knowledge, and ideas. And “happiness” is the wonderful joy we get from gratitude, compassion, and love.
Today, I’m discussing a challenge that we all face within our lives – “Stress.” Have you ever received another person’s wrath because of that person’s weakness in not being able to handle his or her stress? Or worse, have you ever directed your anger at another person and blamed your bad behavior because of the stress your were going through?
How often we experience stress is within our control. I personally believe that 99% of all challenges we face are either minor or can be resolved. In regards to the 1% of challenges that we can’t control, we can become stronger by accepting it, learning from it, and moving on.
Studies have shown that stress can cause us emotional and physical problems. Further, if we manage it in the wrong way, we could hurt our relationships and reputation. Instead of handling stress in a destructive way that hurts ourselves and others, we can address it in a positive way that spreads waves of positive energy to others. In this post, I will share with you my strategies to reduce stress. I also include a poster on how to beat stress and boost happiness by Happify, a company that helps you to develop happiness skills through its online activities and articles. You can check out Happify at http://www.happify.com.
If we can reduce stress, we will be healthier physical, mentally, and spiritually; and be stronger in our practice of gratitude, compassion, and love. With good health and happiness, we can make the best use of our time, absorb more knowledge, and come up with more ideas.
The following are some of the things that I like to do to reduce stress:
- Exercise: Run indoors or outdoors and lift weights.
- Dream of what I want to achieve.
- Type my ideas.
- Write down and update my goals.
- Envision the outcome of my goals.
- Listen to music.
- Spend time with my family.
- Be around positive people.
- Have gratitude for all the good things I have in my life.
- See the positive in every failure.
- Try to get a good sleep and take a nap when I need a boost.
- Listen to podcast shows that highlight positive and successful people.
- Write fictional stories.
- Read novels.
- Learn through reading or practice.
- Watch a television show or movie that inspires me.
- Sensory Therapy – Sight: Vision boards, posters, & light from candles.
- Sensory Therapy – Sound: Music and sounds of nature.
- Sensory Therapy – Aroma: Scented candles and oil diffusers.
- Sensory Therapy – Touch: Shower or bath, swimming in the ocean or a pool, or a massage.
- Enjoy events.
- Appreciate the beauty of nature.
Here is a poster from Happify that shows us how to take on stress in a positive way.
I’m posting a series called the Positive Living Practice to highlight services or products by individuals, organizations, or companies that can help us to achieve a more happy and fulfilling life. These services or products can be incorporated into our Positive Living Practice of health, wealth, and happiness. By “health,” I mean good physical, mental, and spiritual health. For “wealth,” I define it as time, knowledge, and ideas. And “happiness” is the wonderful joy we get from gratitude, compassion, and love.
I use the Positive Living Practice together with a practice I created for myself while I was in college to help me in achieving my goals. Until now, I didn’t have a name for it, so I’ll name it now as the “Stages Practice” in which my life is categorized by major stages in development in a timeline. Each year is listed under a stage number and under each year, I have all the major things I’ve learned, experienced, accomplished, or failed. Under future years, I list all my biggest goals. Basically, the “Stages program” is my plan for my entire life. In a separate document I list my New Year’s Resolutions, which are goals that help me to reach my largest goals in my “Stages Practice.” To achieve my New Year’s Resolutions, I have a task list that I have for each day of the year, and I calendar my tasks in my daily schedule. To encourage myself to achieve tasks, yearly resolutions, and stage goals, I reward myself with something when I achieve a certain percentage of my yearly resolutions. Within the yearly resolutions, I have quarterly benchmarks and special benchmarks to encourage me to keep working hard towards those yearly resolutions. I reward myself for reaching quarterly or special benchmarks. For example, right now I’m working hard on a special benchmark I created, and I will reward myself with a haircut if I achieve it.
Basically, the Positive Living Practice and Stages Practice is a practice that I try hard to do every day. From a young age, I understood, the Stages Practice, but I’ll be honest, I’m still trying to be better at the Positive Living Practice. Reaching our goals isn’t that special without happiness, and failure of course is more bearable when you have a positive outlook on life. One day I feel like I’m on top of the world, then another day, I’m trying to figure it out. In life, there will be ups and downs. The strategy I’m sharing with you has helped me withstand the “downs” and bring me back up. Succeeding forward and failing forward are equally powerful in our quest for health, wealth, and happiness.
I cherish every moment I have with my nieces Elyse (2 years and 11 months old) and Sophie (4 months old), daughters of my younger sister Mia and brother-in-law Mike. I try to spend a month or two with them every year either in Hawaii, the Bay Area, California, or on a trip somewhere. I also try to Skype with them every week with my parents and my younger sister Lara. As they grow older, they remind me of how valuable time is. I want them to have happiness throughout their lives. I love them so much. I dedicate the song above to Elyse and Sophie, which has some cute kids singing about making up for lost time.
I attended the 2015 Hawaii Lodging, Hospitality & Foodservice Expo during the afternoon of Thursday, July 9, 2015 at the Neil S. Blaisdell Center.