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Every day, take notes on the thoughts that go through your mind. This mindful practice can help you push away your negative, distortive thoughts about your past and future.


Every day, take notes on the thoughts that go through your mind. This mindful practice can help you push away your negative, distortive thoughts about your past and future. With a clearer mind, you can fill it up with the things you are grateful for and strategies that you can can execute on to move forward in your personal life and career.

Every day, take notes on the thoughts that go through your mind. This mindful practice can help you push away your negative, distortive thoughts about your past and future. With a clearer mind, you can fill it up with the things you are grateful for and strategies that you can can execute on to move forward in your personal life and career.

Every day, take notes on the thoughts that go through your mind. This mindful practice can help you push away your negative, distortive thoughts about your past and future. With a clearer mind, you can fill it up with the things that you are grateful for and strategies that you can can execute on to move forward in your personal life and career.

If you have a smart phone with you, this is very doable. Use a note-taking app and write your thoughts down. Personally, I really like using Google Keep. If you don’t have a smart phone, carry a little notepad and pen with you so you can write your thoughts down.

At the end of the day, review your notes. Are your thoughts normal or distorted? Are you doing any of the following cognitive distortions: (1) Having an all or nothing thinking; (2) Concluding that something bad will happen to you over and over again; (3) Filtering out all the positive things in your life; (4) Disqualifying your positive experiences; (5) Jumping to negative conclusions; (6) Blowing up things way out of proportion or minimizing them; (7) Believing your distorted emotions are the truth; (8) Scolding yourself for falling short of your standards; (9) Creating a negative image of yourself; and/or (10) Assuming responsibility for something negative when there is no basis for doing so. Be honest with yourself. If you can identify your cognitive distortions, you will begin to see your issues as they really are. By practicing this, your problems, as difficult as they may be, become challenges that you can picture yourself managing, even overcoming. Read our earlier social media posts and our blog at www.positivemasters.com about the 10 cognitive distortions mentioned above.

Next, fill up your mind with things you are grateful for. Write this down in your smartphone or notepad. Also, write down strategies that you can implement that will help you to improve your personal life and career. Finally, take immediate action on your gratitude and personal development. Do this every day. This exercise really helps me. I hope it can be a benefit for you as well!

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Don’t negatively label yourself or others.


Don't negatively label yourself or others.

Don’t negatively label yourself or others.

Cognitive Distortions – Part 9
Don’t negatively label yourself or others.

When you create a negative label on yourself such as “I’m a loser” you degrade yourself. It’s a hostile attack on yourself. It dehumanizes you. Likewise, name calling another person dehumanizes that person. Stay in the light my friends.

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Don’t scold yourself or others for falling short of your standards.


Don't scold yourself or others for falling short of your standards.

Don’t scold yourself or others for falling short of your standards.

Cognitive Distortions – Part 8
Don’t scold yourself or others for falling short of your standards. 

Do you find yourself telling yourself, “I should’ve done this” or “I should’ve done that”? These type of words and the tone of them can create unnecessary frustration in your life. When you have goals, it’s human to fall short at times. No one achieves everything they want. Take a closer look at your journey and all the knowledge, skills, and relationships you’ve gained. Don’t you think all of them are wins? They are!

Now, the same goes for how you judge others. Don’t scold them for falling short of your standards. I repeat “your standards,” which could be blown out of proportion (another cognitive distortion). Instead, look at all of their gains, which you may have overlooked because of your frustration. Again, as humans, we won’t achieve everything we want to accomplish, but we all can grow from our journey. Appreciate yourself and others for the journeys we undertake.

Sending love and positive energy to you!

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Don’t believe your distorted emotions are the truth.


Don't believe your distorted emotions are the truth.

Don’t believe your distorted emotions are the truth.

Cognitive Distortions – Part 7
Don’t believe your distorted emotions are the truth. 

Don’t believe your distorted emotions are the truth. For example, you make a mistake and tell yourself, “I feel like an idiot; therefore, I am an idiot.” No you’re not an idiot. You made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. In that case, everyone is an idiot. Please. That’s simply not true.

Let’s say you broke up with your lover, and this is the third time you’ve had a serious relationship. You tell yourself, “Since this is my third break-up, no one will ever love me.” Again, your emotions are grossly exaggerated. You have many potential partners out there, and if they had an opportunity to know you, many of them could fall in love with you.

Stay positive! You are wonderful! Sending positive energy to you!

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Don’t blow things up out of proportion or minimize them.


Don't blow things up out of proportion or minimize them.

Don’t blow things up out of proportion or minimize them.

Cognitive Distortions – Part 6

Don’t blow things up out of proportion or minimize them.

When you fail, don’t exaggerate your errors and imperfections. Don’t blow them up way out of proportion because doing so will cause you unnecessary grief. Everyone make mistakes. Failure plays a huge role in your learning process; however, you may fear it as you get older. Constantly remind yourself that failure is part of your growth. If you fall down, you can get back up again stronger by learning from your mistakes. When you tried to walk as baby, you would fall down often, sometimes getting injured; yet, you kept getting up and trying again until walking became second nature.

Products, services, and philosophical and scientific theories are proven through trial and error. Thomas Edison went through thousands of prototypes before he was able to successfully create the light bulb. Henry Ford became financially broke 5 times and was advised to stay away from the automobile industry. He persisted until he successfully developed automobiles for the commercial market.

Even Albert Einstein struggled. As a student, he performed so poorly that he nearly decided to drop out and sell life insurance. After graduating from the Swiss Polytechnic Institute at 21 years old, Einstein had to work many odd jobs to sustain himself. His father died believing he was a failure. Einstein was emotionally crushed. Eventually, he became employed as a patent clerk. He would review patents and analyze mathematical equations daily, and he loved it. Einstein’s passion for math led him down the path to becoming one of the greatest scientists in world history. This example shows how failure can lead you to your passions.

Some failures are out of your control such as a car exploding and crashing into your vehicle, causing you to miss an important meeting that that ended badly with the investor leaving. Or, like our current situation with the Coronavirus, a pandemic spreads, causing the economy to shut down, which leads to you losing money. In these situations that are out of your control, don’t exaggerate the errors and imperfections. Instead, always have gratitude for the positive – you are still alive.

Neither should you exaggerate the errors and imperfections of others. By doing so, you will lash out undue judgment. This is where having empathy for others can tame your distorted view on the failure of others. Remind yourself that you could fail just as bad or worse. If you place hell on others, be ready to receive the same wrath from people when you fail at the same thing.

When I was a litigation attorney, I was once stuck in traffic for almost 2 hours on the freeway, on my way to Honolulu District Court from West Oahu because of an accident ahead of me. I arrived at the courtroom with 5 minutes before it was to start; but the judge was already sitting in her chair gaveling the start of the hearing. She berated me without giving me a chance to apologize. A year later, that same judge was almost a half an hour late to another court hearing. She sat down and oversaw the hearing like nothing happened. She didn’t even apologize to any of us. In this real life example, the judge blew things way out of proportion for me even though I had 5 minutes more before the court was to begin; whereas, she treated her tardiness like it never happened. Moral of the story, don’t blow things out of proportion for the errors of others either. You will cause unnecessary stress on your target and others around you. When you make the same mistake, shit will start flying back at you, whether it is uncomfortable stares or more. People like that also seem to have less friends because they hold high standards on others that doesn’t apply to themselves.

Lastly, when it comes to your strengths, don’t minimize them. For instance, when you achieve a nice score on your test, don’t minimize your success by telling yourself that you were just lucky when you studied your butt off. When your third attempt at a start-up company finally succeeds, don’t pass it off as simply being lucky. No, you worked darn hard for many years to get where you are. You sacrificed by living with little money to build your business. Embrace your success. Don’t shrink them. Nor should you minimize the success of others. They also sacrificed a lot to achieve them. Be happy for them. If you’re minimizing yourself now, let me say this, “You’re great, and you deserve those wins! Keep crushing it!”

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To counter your anxiety or depression, take one small action at a time, and reward yourself for taking these actions.


To counter your anxiety or depression, take one small action at a time, and reward yourself for taking these actions.

To counter your anxiety or depression, take one small action at a time, and reward yourself for taking these actions.

To counter your anxiety or depression, take one small action at a time, and reward yourself for taking these actions.

When you’re anxious or depressed, you may freeze-up and find it difficult to do your work or even your basic tasks. Instead, you think about your worries or painful memories. When you’re unable to do anything to help yourself progress, your worries or sadness increases because now you have added stress for all the things you haven’t been able to keep up with. As a result, your anxiety or depression compounds, pulling you deeper and deeper into darkness.

People expecting your work, may take it out on you, not knowing the struggles you’re dealing with: death of a loved one, major illness, financial troubles, separation from your lover, failure of a project, etc. When such people put you down or attack you, you fall faster and faster into what seems like infinite darkness.

By taking one small action at a time, you start putting the brakes on your free fall into darkness and begin to boost your energy to counter the negative forces so you can move upwards. By taking small actionable steps, you’ll distract yourself from that internal dialogue of self denigration. With each small action you accomplish, you’ll feel a burst of dopamine, a happy chemical in your brain that gives you pleasure for your accomplishments. Your self-worth returns. You begin to dispel your distorted thoughts. Now, you’re rising upwards, away from the black hole of anxiety and depression.

When I say, “Do a small action,” I mean break down a task into smaller bite-size actions, scheduling a half-hour for each action in your calendar. Over the course of your day, these bite-size actions add up, and by the end of the day, you’ll see a bunch of stuff you accomplished on your calendar. Use your calendar as a tool to ignite your booster engines that will push your momentum upwards. Personally, I enjoy using my Google calendar, which syncs with my laptop and smartphone. It’s an excellent tool for my productivity practices and reigniting my progress when anxiety and sadness freezes me.

My friends, if you’re going through anxiety or depression, I feel you. I hope this article or some of my other ones can be of help. Sending positive energy to you.

With Warmest Aloha,
Jon

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Don’t jump to negative conclusions.


Don't jump to negative conclusions.

Don’t jump to negative conclusions.

Cognitive Distortions – Part 5

Don’t jump to negative conclusions.

Sometimes you mind read people when you’re not a mind reader. For example, you may jump to a conclusion that a person doesn’t like you when in fact that person finds you interesting.

Neither are you a fortune teller. For instance, you may jump to a conclusion that no one will like reading your book before you even attempt at writing it. How can you predict that? You may have a masterpiece that people love.

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In order to see all the wonderful things around us and dispel our cognitive distortions, we must fully live in the present.


In order to see all the wonderful things around us and dispel our cognitive distortions, we must fully live in the present.

In order to see all the wonderful things around us and dispel our cognitive distortions, we must fully live in the present.

In order to see all the wonderful things around us and dispel our cognitive distortions, we must fully live in the present. 😊

– +positive masters+, 2/23/2020, Jon Riki Karamatsu –

You have to be fully present if you want to go into your mind and dispel your distortive thoughts that make you anxious, sad, and angry. You have to be fully present if you want to consistently see all the great things in your life.

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Don’t disqualify your positive experiences. Instead, love yourself for your effort and abilities.


Don't disqualify your positive experiences. Instead, love yourself for your effort and abilities.

Don’t disqualify your positive experiences. Instead, love yourself for your effort and abilities.

Cognitive Distortions – Part 4

Don’t disqualify your positive experiences. For example, when someone praises you, you disqualify it by telling yourself, “They’re just being nice.” Or when you perform well, you tell yourself, “I was just lucky” or “That was a fluke.” No, don’t do this. Instead, love yourself for your effort and abilities. You got yourself to where you are because of you, the good qualities that you have.

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Don’t filter out all the positive things in your life when something bad happens to you.


Don't filter out all the positive things in your life when something bad happens to you.

Don’t filter out all the positive things in your life when something bad happens to you.

Cognitive Distortions – Part 3

Don’t filter out all the positive things in your life when something bad happens to you. By doing this, you focus only on the negativity. No, always allow all the good stuff in your life into your conscious mind. Stay positive!
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When something bad happens to you, don’t conclude that it will happen to you over and over again.


When something bad happens to you, don't conclude that it will happen to you over and over again. This is what mental health professionals call "overgeneralization."⁠

When something bad happens to you, don’t conclude that it will happen to you over and over again. This is what mental health professionals call “overgeneralization.”⁠

Cognitive Distortions – Part 2⁠

When something bad happens to you, don’t conclude that it will happen to you over and over again. This is what mental health professionals call “overgeneralization.”⁠

For example, you break up with someone and you believe that no one will ever love you. Or you find a dent on the door of your car, and you tell yourself, “I’m always getting dinks on my car” when you’ve only had two dents on your car in twelve years of driving almost every day.⁠

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Don’t have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!


Don't have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!

Don’t have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!

Cognitive Distortions – Part 1

Don’t have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!

The following are a couple of examples of an all or nothing mindset: “I didn’t get accepted into the university that I wanted so I’m a failure” or “I lost my election because people don’t like me.”

All or nothing is the basis for perfectionism. Such thinking makes you feel worthless because of a failure or imperfection. Absolutes don’t exist. If you force your experiences into absolute categories, you’ll always be depressed because whatever you do will never measure up to your exaggerated expectations.

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