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If you can fully embrace the unpredictability of your death, you will truly live in the present and appreciate every moment before you now.


None of us can predict when and how we will die. If you can fully embrace the unpredictability of your death, you will truly live in the present and appreciate every moment before you now.

None of us can predict when and how we will die. If you can fully embrace the unpredictability of your death, you will truly live in the present and appreciate every moment before you now.

None of us can predict when and how we will die. If you can fully embrace the unpredictability of your death, you will truly live in the present and appreciate every moment before you now.
– +positive masters+, Jon Riki Karamatsu, 1/20/2020 –

On Thursday, January 17, 2020, my mom called my cell phone. Her voice was filled with elation and joy, “Mia got the job at Stanford University!” My younger sister Mia is a trauma care doctor, a partner of a group of medical doctors at California Pacific Medical Center at San Francisco, California.

“Oh man, I’m so happy! I’m so happy for her! This is awesome!” My voiced cracked with joyful laughter.

My mom continued, “Earlier, I heard dad cheer, ‘Wohoo!’ probably when Mia told him the good news!” My dad was talking with Mia on the phone before my mom. For those of you who know my dad, this type of celebratory action by him is extremely unusual. He’s normally stoic and logical, fitting for a former electrical engineer who helped build and fix nuclear submarines and warships at Pearl Harbor, Hawaii.

Mia fulfilled a dream of my mom’s mom, my grandma Ellen Sakai. When my two sisters and I were little, she told us that we should become doctors. She emphasized how important doctors were. Grandma also told many of her other grandchildren this.

One Summer, while I attended Summer classes at the University of Hawaii at Manoa, majoring in political science, I was living with her and grandpa Tadao Sakai at their small home on Citron Street, in the heart of McCully, Honolulu, Hawaii. Grandma and I had another one of those talks about whether or not I would become a medical doctor.

“Grandma, I plan to go to law school.”

“Ah, lawyers are dime-a-dozen,” she answered.

“I’m not going to be a regular lawyer, I’m going to be President of the United States.”

I smiled as my grandma laughed away. “No one knows you,” she said while continuing to laugh, “You have to be like Jon Yoshimura (a Honolulu politician who became the Chairman of the Honolulu City Council and had a segment on the local news station called “Ask a Lawyer” where viewers got their legal questions answered.). Why don’t you become a doctor?”

Years later, when Mia participated in the white coat ceremony at the John A. Burns School of Medicine, University of Hawaii at Manoa, Grandma Sakai’s face was filled with pride and joy. So was the expression on my grandma Bessie Karamatsu’s face, my dad’s mom. There was immense pride among all of us, my dad, mom, baby sister Lara, and I. To serve others as a medical professional is a great calling. Every single one of us needs a doctor. We all get sick. We all will die. It’s our doctor who will help us when we face every illness and disease, and ultimately, our death. It’s not just the skills and knowledge that our doctor continuously develops, but the empathic and caring words that he/she says to us that will help comfort our suffering.

When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi

Just as my sister Mia was embarking on an exciting new path of medical care practice, public speaking, and research and development to create new healthcare services and products at Stanford University, I picked up the book “When Breath Becomes Air,” an incredible memoir by Paul Kalanithi, who at the age of thirty-six, on the verge of completing a decade’s worth of training as a neurosurgeon and neuroscientist, was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer. One day he was a doctor treating the dying, and the next he was a patient struggling to live. And just like that, the future he and his wife had imagined evaporated. When Breath Becomes Air chronicles Paul’s transformation from a naïve medical student “possessed,” as he wrote, “by the question of what, given that all organisms die, makes a virtuous and meaningful life?”

As I read “When Breath Becomes Air,” I felt a deep sadness on how Paul Kalanithi’s potential was cut short from cancer, which mixed with the happiness I felt for my sister Mia who will be heading to Stanford University, starting this Summer to expand her medical career as a practitioner and researcher. The connection, Stanford University, made Paul’s story and my sister’s story very real, on top of them being the same age. You see, Paul did amazing work for Stanford University before he died. In addition to his work in the operating room as a neurosurgeon, he was a neuroscientist in a lab at Stanford University, where he worked on neural prosthetic technology that would allow paralyzed people to mentally control a computer cursor or robot arm. I kept thinking on how Mia and many other doctors will continue on their trajectory, something Paul would have loved to do.

I read this book in two sittings. His journey opened my eyes. I was in awe of the work neurosurgeons and neuroscientists do. It wrenched my heart as he struggled with his emotions and logic when faced with extremely difficult situations that brain trauma patients and loved ones of the patients face such as deciding whether to keep a patient alive knowing that the patient could risk losing knowledge of one’s self and everyone and everything around him/her. Without this function, a person loses his/her purpose. The innocence and excitement felt by Paul and his fellow medical classmates were replaced by fatigue, stress, and death after they ventured into their different residency programs at hospitals and medical centers across the country.

Paul’s writing brought me into his world as if I was with him through his every struggle. I loved it when things seemed to be getting better for him and his wife. I chuckled at his humor. When he cried, I cried. I had to pause from my reading numerous times as tears streamed down my cheeks. In fact, I cried as I wrote this article in a Starbucks coffee shop in Waikele, Hawaii packed with people. That’s how impactful Paul’s book has been on me. He wrote it as he was dying, racing against precious seconds. I felt every word of his as if he was talking to me.

In the past, I’ve written numerous times about death and how embracing it can motivate us to be appreciative of everything we have and make the most of our life. However, unless I face my own dying moments, I won’t fully understand what it’s like to be dying, whether it’s quick and instant or slow and gradual. Likewise, none of you will know until it’s your time. Well, Paul, through his writing shows us exactly what he was feeling as he moved towards his death. His experience became my experience. I could see myself in his life and by doing so, I felt myself experiencing death surrounding me. I will forever keep Paul’s book close to me, opening it every time I stress about challenges for my businesses or clients, financial hardship, public ridicule for my failures, and facing prison time for my driving under the influence case, all of which look so small in comparison to dying.

I’ve lost a lot of loved ones over my lifetime. Last year was especially hard with the passing of my aunty JoAnn Matsumoto (My mom’s cousin and a former elementary school teacher), family friend Eric Kanemoto (My soccer coach, Cub Scout Master, Intermediate School teacher for metal shop, and my dad’s close friend. He and my dad coached my soccer teams, led the cub scouting program I was in, volunteered in the parent and teacher association for my Pearl City High School, and worked together on many other projects. They enjoyed talking with each other and the simple pleasures of life), and uncle Glenn Karamatsu (My dad’s younger brother and co-founder of a civil engineering firm in Hawaii). Reading “When Breath Becomes Air” has helped me cope with the deaths of my loved ones.

I love life. I’m extremely grateful to have an opportunity to try many things while I’m alive. I’m super appreciative of my dad, mom, sisters, nieces, nephew, relatives, and friends. And I’m thankful to be able to speak to you. As I move closer towards my death, I hope I’ll be strong, vulnerable, joyful, sad, and loving. After all, I went through it with Paul and felt his breath become air.

Love your life and make the most of it.

Dr. Paul Kalanithi, a neurosurgeon and neuroscientist, wearing his white coat.

Dr. Paul Kalanithi, a neurosurgeon and neuroscientist, wearing his white coat.

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I dedicate this article to Paul Kalanithi’s wife Lucy, daughter Cady, mom, dad, siblings, family, and friends.

Paul and Lucy Kalanithi at their wedding.

Paul and Lucy Kalanithi at their wedding.

Dr. Paul Kalinithi, Lucy Kalanithi, and their daughter Elizabeth Acadia.

Dr. Paul and Lucy Kalanithi with their daughter Elizabeth Acadia.

Dr. Paul Kalanithi, Lucy Kalanithi, and their daughter Elizabeth Acadia.

Dr. Paul Kalanithi, Lucy Kalanithi, and their daughter Elizabeth Acadia.

 

I also dedicate this article to my dad, mom, sisters, brothers-in-law, nieces, nephew, extended family, and friends.

To read Paul Kalanithi’s “When Breath Becomes Air,” click here: When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi.

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Don’t have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!


Don't have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!

Don’t have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!

Cognitive Distortions – Part 1

Don’t have an all or nothing thinking. Stay positive!

The following are a couple of examples of an all or nothing mindset: “I didn’t get accepted into the university that I wanted so I’m a failure” or “I lost my election because people don’t like me.”

All or nothing is the basis for perfectionism. Such thinking makes you feel worthless because of a failure or imperfection. Absolutes don’t exist. If you force your experiences into absolute categories, you’ll always be depressed because whatever you do will never measure up to your exaggerated expectations.

Pictured is our Positive Sign Logo Unisex T-Shirt. We designed the positive sign on the shirt to remind you to keep training your mind to be positive. We want you to withstand your tough times and be happy a great majority of your life!

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Take vacations to recharge yourself!


Take vacations to recharge yourself! Studies have shown the importance of taking vacations from work to reduce your stress.

Take vacations to recharge yourself! Studies have shown the importance of taking vacations from work to reduce your stress.

Take vacations to recharge yourself!

Studies have shown the importance of taking vacations from work to reduce your stress.  Even a staycation or simply staying at home to rest and do the things you enjoy like reading and writing can be extremely beneficial for your health.

I recently took time off during the Holiday Season to spend time with my family and friends. I do my best to be present so I can make the most of every moment with my loved ones. It was especially nice to be with my loved ones who came to Hawaii from California.

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In a dispute, not everyone will believe the facts. Keep doing what you can, but don’t let your stress destroy your health or suck the joy out of your life.


In a dispute, not everyone will believe the facts. Keep doing what you can, but don't let your stress destroy your health or suck the joy out of your life.

In a dispute, not everyone will believe the facts. Keep doing what you can, but don’t let your stress destroy your health or suck the joy out of your life.

If you’re facing a dispute or litigation, all you can do is present your side of what happened. After that, it’s up to the trier of fact, whether it be a mediator, arbitrator, judge, or jury. If they side with you, great! However, if they don’t, tell yourself that you did what you could. Continue to do what you can, but don’t let your stress destroy your health or suck the joy out of your life.

My friends, I know it’s tough. The truth will always live in you. Your life means a lot to those who love you.

With Warmest Aloha,
Jon

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I ran my 12th Honolulu Marathon!


I finished my 12th Honolulu Marathon on Sunday December 8, 2019.

I finished my 12th Honolulu Marathon on Sunday December 8, 2019. In this picture, I have my Honolulu Marathon medal, Honolulu Marathon Finisher t-shirt, & shell necklace.

I ran my 12th Honolulu Marathon on Sunday December 8, 2019! Here, I picked up my Honolulu Marathon Finisher Certificate at the Hawaii Convention Center on Monday December 9, 2019.

I ran my 12th Honolulu Marathon on Sunday December 8, 2019! Here, I picked up my Honolulu Marathon Finisher Certificate at the Hawaii Convention Center on Monday December 9, 2019.

I ran my 12th Honolulu Marathon on Sunday December 8, 2019! Here, I picked up my Honolulu Marathon Finisher Certificate at the Hawaii Convention Center on Monday December 9, 2019.

I ran my 12th Honolulu Marathon on Sunday December 8, 2019! Here, I picked up my Honolulu Marathon Finisher Certificate at the Hawaii Convention Center on Monday December 9, 2019.

I ran my 12th Honolulu Marathon on Sunday December 8, 2019! I’m super grateful for my mom dropping me off near Ala Moana Beach Park at 5:00 A.M. and then picking me up later at Kapiolani Park where we finish the race. She’s been doing this for me for the past 12 races.

On Monday December 9, 2019, I picked up my finisher certificate at the Hawaii Convention Center wearing my finisher t-shirt.

My sister Mia convinced my sister Lara and I to run this marathon in 2008.  I’ve continued running this race ever since as an encouragement for me to continue exercising.

For 2020, I plan to increase my cardio and strength training to the level I was at 2017 and prior.  My business projects have been struggling so I’ve been focusing so much of my time on work and neglected my exercise.  I’m so pumped up to increase my training!

Have fun exercising!

With Warmest Aloha, Jon

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You’ve seen enough death to know that your time could be up at anytime. So work hard on how you want to be remembered as, now!


You've seen enough death to know that your time could be up at anytime. So work hard on how you want to be remembered as, now!

You’ve seen enough death to know that your time could be up at anytime. So work hard on how you want to be remembered as, now!

You’ve seen enough death to know that your time could be up at anytime. So work hard on how you want to be remembered as, now!

Accepting your vulnerability that you could die at any time is not something you may want to think about. However, there’s a way you can make it positive. You could look at your future demise as the celebration of your life:

(1) The people you’ve touched with your love and kind gestures;

(2) The positive impact you’ve made on others through your work on a service or product; and

(3) Beneficial content you’ve created for your loved ones and the greater community.

I’ve written down in my life plan, annual plans, and daily plans, the things I want to do for others and the community before I die. I schedule it in my calendar so I can execute most of them before my time is up.

For your fun homework, write down all the things you want to do that will be your legacy for your loved ones and the community. Write down even the craziest things you want to do that would be super impactful, practical, educational, or fun! Next, write them into your life plan, annual plans, and daily plans. Most importantly, schedule them into your calendar and execute on them!

Love you! Sending positive energy to you!

With Warmest Aloha,
Jon

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To lower your stress, anxiety, depression, or anger, lessen your consumption of the news.


To lower your stress, anxiety, depression, or anger, lessen your consumption of the news. The news is filled with negative stories and gossip, stuff that will make you stressed, anxious, depressed, or angry.

To lower your stress, anxiety, depression, or anger, lessen your consumption of the news.

To lower your stress, anxiety, depression, or anger, lessen your consumption of the news. 🎥📺📰📻🖥️💻📱

The news is filled with negative stories and gossip, stuff that will make you stressed, anxious, depressed, or angry. I stopped watching the news since 2015. 🙅🏻 I feel this has been beneficial for my mental and physical health.

However, once in awhile, I research news on the Internet regarding niche subjects that is fun or practical such as business, weather, or sports from my alma mater universities: University of Hawaii and Gonzaga University. When people I know die or a storm is approaching, I usually see these stories popping up on social media, through word of mouth, or notifications on my smartphone. 😊

You know yourself well. If the media is bringing you down, turn them off on all your devices and focus on things that lift you up! ☝️⬆️

With Warmest Aloha,
Jon

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